There seems to be a general consensus between men and women; online dating is extremely tedious. The men who want genuine companionship and everything that goes with it are not meeting the women that want the same. There are apps that cater to these people however men are finding that they’re facing the same issues no matter the caliber of the dating app, or how much they’ve paid for that premium or platinum option.

Is online dating all about his income?

Many if not all men say that their work is the most important aspect of their lives. The most common complaint that I’ve gotten from my circle of male acquaintances is that the women they match with all seem to want a man who earns an unrealistic amount of money. The opinion is that if the man is making bank, then he is able to (for starters) pay for dinner and then everything else. Apparently, a woman who is obvious about her intention of getting a free meal is a big turn-off.

Staying on the topic of work, I have a friend who went from working in an office environment and communicating and socializing with his co-workers regularly to working from home, and that greatly affected his social skills. He still matches with women in his online dating endeavors but more often than not he is hesitant to take things to the next step of actually meeting the said woman.

It’s all about being straightforward

The podcast bros were also talking about nuance and how online dating eliminates a lot of it. Online dating requires you to be fairly straightforward, I mean not everyone has the wherewithal to have extended conversations via text. They were saying that if you meet someone in person, the nuance of your personality shines through. Before phones and the internet, we met people in person and had to make more of an effort to actually get to know them. Now, it’s half a conversation, and if the other person isn’t interested or interesting enough – unmatch!

Communication also plays a role

Age and life situations also play a big part in how men navigate the world of online dating. I know at least three guys in their mid to late thirties who are still swiping in an effort to connect with someone. One acquaintance who has been divorced and has a daughter mentioned how different dating in his thirties was compared to when he was in his twenties, his experience was that the women he matched with weren’t that keen on dating a divorced father. And his intention was to make a genuine connection. My two other acquaintances (also both divorced with kids) are both not keen on meeting “the next Mrs”. From what I can gather, they are pretty upfront about their intentions. Communication is absolutely key.

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Speaking of your twenties. For most of us, our twenties were about clubbing and socializing until all hours of the night meeting members of the opposite sex. It seemed like we would always be in a position to meet a potential partner. Your thirties, on the other hand, is a different kettle of fish. Work takes over and we don’t have the time or energy to be out, and the opportunities for meeting new people become considerably less.

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One of my co-workers is of the opinion that the age of online dating is coming to an end. He has an amazing group of real-life friends that arranges regular group meet-ups. Could that be the answer? Drop your thoughts in the comments below.